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dear tigerlily...
I've read some of your posts and I must say I can relate. Most people just accept their overweight bodies as socially normal, few people really strive for change, so kudos to you on that point alone. I was pretty thin my whole life until I got pregnant with my daughter, my significant other cheated on me, left me...life got hard after that. Food became an obsession, and I realized after much reading and soul searching that my obsession with food had nothing to do with hunger...it was a way to suppress anxiety, it was something to think about rather than think about the real issues in my life...my personal problems, my low selfesteem, the job that I hate, my general sense of inadequacy...anyways I realized that when I stopped obsessing over food, I would have find other things to think about all day long! New hobbies, interests, it even led to me throwing my back into work (at the job I hate) and to my surprise it felt great to come home twice as exhausted from work as before.
The other biggest thing I've learned is to LISTEN to my body, rather than try and make it listen to me. My body is smarter than I am. Pay attention to the way things feel...for instance, ever feel like a big sack of crap after eating a bunch of junk food? compare that feeling to having fresh steamed veggies for dinner. energy soars, even my mood improves. replace soda and coffee and energy drinks with green tea. the caffeine is natural, you don't crash hours later.
Another thing I had to do was learn to love working out. At first it sucked, oh man it sucked. I tried running, tried to like it and I even got pretty good at it (for me) but I just hated it. Taking a bike out on a trail on the other hand, that's heaven. I love my aerobics classes too, they combine cardio, strength, stretching with music and companionship. I've seen the most results from aerobics.
A word about hunger: I went two years without feeling hunger. That's how much I was eating. Forget all the rules you know about eating six meals a day, etc. let yourself get hungry, stay hungry for a little while. you're not gonna drop dead, it's perfectly healthy and normal to get hungry, and your body is equipped to handle it by using other resources. just make sure you don't get weak and dizzy that's too hungry lol.
Do what truly feels good, accept that there may be setbacks, weight loss is a journey it doesn't happen overnight. I really like your analogy about the old suit it is so true...sometimes I think we can't lose weight because we wouldn't recognize the person in the mirror if we did. I have been thin before though, and it felt great. I have to remember how it felt.
Anyways, my point is, keep up the good work, do the things that feel good, make it a FUN journey you never wanna quit. So at the end of the day, even if you're not at your ideal weight, at least you'll feel like you're getting somewhere. Best of luck!
-Jada
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Hello Tiger Lily: Thanks for your continuing posts. Always inspiring. Are you aware of the set of guided meditations that Abe just did? Amazon is pre-selling them now and they'll be shipping in a week. I for one am really counting on the physical body meditation to help me line up my energy around my weight issue. Even though I am in the vortex a lot and feel wonderful most of the time, my body still hangs on to 100+ extra pounds. Sheesh.
(Link *NEW* Abraham-Hicks Guided Meditation added on right.)
Radiance
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Thank you for this post! It has inspired me.
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All the ways you've enumerated are really delocious to increase your vibrations. As for me, I often bake, listen to music or listen to the "whisper of trees and grass".
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You have a very good site, well constructed and very interesting i have bookmarked you, hopefully you keep posting new stuff, many thanks
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Reading great posts of other bloggers enable me to reduce my boredom as I am able to learn from other people's experience. Thanks for posting this.
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That was an excellent article. I came by your piece and found it exceptionally helpful.
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This reading is really good and engaging.
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Hello dears, here's an observation from my own experience of me.
Have you noticed that your feeling of how heavy or how light you feel changes throughout the day, and from one day to the next? Have you noticed the thought you have when you notice how heavy you feel? Have you noticed the chain of thoughts that follow it? It's a kind of chain reaction. Kind of familiar.
Now notice how you respond at those times when you may notice that you feel lighter? Is there a chain of thought there and how does it differ from the one you do when you are feeling heavier. You may notice that at those times when you feel heavier there is a worse feeling chain of thoughts, and it may be that when you feel momentarily lighter, you react very differently. I say 'momentarily' because I have noticed that the thought that often comes with the lighter feeling is a dismissive one,ie it dismisses the feeling of lightness as a passing illusory feeling, kind of well that would be nice! . . . whereas the thought that comes when we feel heavier is a kind of 'well that proves it, I'm just heavy and I'm stuck with it.
I'm telling this because it kind of shows how we somehow chose, without realizing it to cement in the heavy thought and dismiss the light thought. Knowing that and even just noticing how we do that . . . without judgement, but just with gentle interest, is a useful thing to do. Once we have noticed our thoughts and been gentle, it becomes easier to play with our thoughts and experiment with deviating from the old patterns. mischievously even getting cheerful and happy with a momentary feeling of lightness when it's there!
Have fun! Ruth
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Hello Tigerlily,
Hope you are still well on your way. Have you read "the big leap" by Gay Hendricks. It's all about upper limiting yourself ie when something great happens to immediately start thinking in a way that you get down back on the track of being in your comfort zone and never making the leap to your "genius zone" (getting a cold, have a fight with your 6 months partner, have an accident, relapse with dieting..)you just make sure you don't reach your potential because... it would hurt your mum, you need to fit in the family, you cannot get that much attention people could get jealous, you cannot be and smarter and better looking than your sibling... I'm in the process of reading it and you came up in my mind.
It's a short book with a lot of aha moments for me and I mean a lot. I already knew or kind of knew some of the stuff, but this makes it very very clear and practical to apply.
hope your ok. I really enjoy reading your blog and kind of miss you when your entries are far apart.
Véronique
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Hi.This is loving blog.I like layout of your website.
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Every thought we have, every judgment we hold, however, unconscious, is having an effect. With every moment that it notices, the conscious mind is sending an intention
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Wow Tigerlily. I am so happy for you...of course the weight loss is impressive but your mindset, focusing on the present, how you feel etc. that is fantastic. My therapist is also trained in hypnotherapy and he has offered to work with me but I am not sure our connection is the same as the one you have. He is really a psychiatrist but, he has a strong spiritual bent. I will talk to him about this and see what he thinks.
I agree that the mind chatter really is a problem for me too. I think you are dealing with it in a conscious manner "Do I need to go to Pizza Hut? What is it I really need at this moment?" You really need to be "in the moment" to ask yourself that and to accept the answer...I am so proud of you!! This is hard work. Congrats!!
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Thank you so much. You guys don't know how much your comments and support mean to me! Let me know how your talk goes with your therapist, it's wonderful that you have the option to try hypnosis yourself. I love it!
Much love,
Tigerlily
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Yay for you! I'm so glad you are ENJOYING this process!
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Thank you so much Gina! I am enjoying it, and it feels wonderful!
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Well, Tiger Lily! This is wonderful! I am so happy for you! My past experience with hypnotherapy has been the same as yours: ineffectual for weight loss, though it did help with depression back in my 30s. I would LOVE to find someone in my area who practices this same type of work. The woods are full of practitioners who SAY they do, but one never knows until one is sitting in the chair. Does your hypnotherapist practice a particular TYPE, by name, of hypnosis inquiry? i.e. NLP? Or is it just his unique style that has worked for you. He sounds wonderful.
-Radiance
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Thanks Radiance! Great questions, I'm going to see him this afternoon, I'll ask him. I understand how you feel about finding someone, I swear, if I'd been looking I would never have found him. The only way to find the perfect hypnotherapist for you is to attract one. Focus on seeing yourself with the perfect person, and talk to anyone in your spiritual community who might have a positive experience with one. I know your guides will connect you with exactly what you want. I'll let you know about the specifics of mine after we talk!
Much love,
Tigerlily
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Tiger Lily: Beautiful insights! It seems that you an I are often at similar places in our journey; your insights have been helpful to me in the past and are again today. Continued well being!
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Hi Tigerlily!
What a great blog you have here! And congratulations on the 11 lbs gone! I have been reading a few of your comments and you have such insight!! I especially like when you said to gina that the weight she had regained had come back for a reason! I think if we look at everything that happens to us we see (good/ bad)we see that there is a reason! Also reflecting on the past so much is not a positive thing...even when we fixate on good things that happened to us we do not allow new good things to move into our lives. I have been working with a therapist for a few years who has a very different approach to psychotherapy. Upon my first visit his first comment was "If you want to talk about your past I'm not the doctor for you" That may sound harsh but true. His experience was that so many patients had spent years rehashing the past events of their lives and had never allowed themselves to move on!!
So he felt that if I wanted results I must look forward, yes sometimes we talk about the past but only for the insight it might offer me to plan my future.
You mention about Abrahams teaching not being easy or simple. Like many things of great elegance they are very simple but NOT easy. The teachings of Louise L Hayes are the same and your beloved Geneen Roth (BTW is she not the best, I am blown away by her new book and yes, read it many, many times!))
I think in our modern lives we lose touch with the idea that simplicity and easy are not the same thing. Simple means not complicated. I have spent a long time thinking about this and have found that it is very true.
Nothing is more simple than the idea of staying in the flow in the moment allowing the Universe to guide you (read Martha Beck's Steering By Starlight)but as you have pointed out not easy...
I lost 40 lbs 3 years ago and have started to notice it creeping back on...
I am going to examine the reasons why it is coming back and what lesson to I need to repeat..maybe getting back into regular exercise??haha! Simple right? Easy?Nooo. but that's where I need to change my thoughts (It easy for me to fit regular exercise into my life, life gives me the tools I need to do this..)Hey, that is why I have a new puppy!!!It's not just so I can clean up all the pee....o.k. now I get it!!
Well you get the idea...
Again thank you for this site, I will visit often and keep you posted on my success and you keep us posted too!
Bonne chance ma belle
Bonne journée
Jovart
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I used to get hung up on Abe saying we didn't have to go to the past to make changes or move on, but then I heard them saying that if the same issue/feeling keeps coming up, you need to deal with it. That means finding out why you feel that way for most of us. I agree you don't absolutely have to dig in the past, but very often, when you understand where a belief or attitude came from, it's easy to release. It's easier to actually see/understand that whatever happened "then" is not now. The problem is that most people dwell on it and have to tell everyone instead of letting it go. Sexual abuse for instance - why keep talking about it like it happened now? Because the person continues to feel like it is happening now until they come to terms with it (into alignment). Keep asking and keep receiving....you're getting there!
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I can really relate. I have gained 33lbs after attaining a goal weight of 115lbs. It happened when I wasn't paying attention. I was working with a Sponsor and I decided to not allow my negative thinking to infect my relationship with her. I watched my thoughts and if they were negative in nature I'd stop them midstream. I had a strong motivation to do this but did not realize how far reaching the affect would be. That miracle year 2006 I reached a weight I had been trying to achieve for 30 years. A large one-bedroom apartment for less than $1000 rent in a nice neighborhood showed up. The exact car I wanted with a price tag I could afford appeared. All of this happened because I was focused on keeping my thoughts light. I have not been able to replicate that year. I have been focused on controling outward conditions rather then on my thoughts. Recently I have had an awareness that I like to problem-solve and spend a lot of my thinking doing that. Last week everytime I caught myself thinking about a problem I'd remind myself not to do that. I found that at first I felt sort of empty and unsure. Now I'm feeling lighthearted and carefree and I've lost 5 lbs. I am not sure if there is a connection between my change in thinking and the weightloss. I think there is and I am going to continue to watch my thoughts.
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Thats great information i really like it. thanks for this useful information.
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A good list of ways to raise your vibration, including the idea of creating a Well-Being deck of your own!
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Thanks for this post,your discovery about faith is a big aha moment for me, as well as the fact that I carry the weight of my questions. I can be so sure that it will be ok for others, but fail to have undivided faith in myself and in my ability to truly let go and have a lasting positive change.
I'm truly thankful. I will also be choosing to be the way I picture myself and I chose to have faith that it will be so.
thank you
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Hi Tigerlily! It's great that you are back on track again. I know how you felt, when I got back to the States from Costa Rica, I went a little crazy with all the restaurants and food choices. It took me a while to get back on track, but so glad I am back! One of the things that has really helped me is listening to the Guided Visualization that I created for weight loss and well being. I listen to it all night long as I sleep and it has worked wonders for me in all aspects of my life. Great to connect with you again!
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Hi Sierra! So good to hear from you!
Getting off track is understandable going from limited choices of Costa Rica to the bonanza of choices we have here, but I'm so glad you are back on track now. Thanks for the hint about the guided visualization, I'll check it out.
Great connecting with you again too, this is going to be an absolutely incredible year for both of us!
Tigerlily
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Hello Again Tiger Lily: I loved reading your post. We are at the same place, and your words could have been written by myself. We can do this! I am starting Monday. I'll look forward to hearing more about your success as the year goes by.
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Hello, so happy to hear from you! And so glad to hear you're with me. Let's cocreate a wonderful and amazing year!
Tigerlily
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I love your blog and wanted you to know your journey inspires me always. I'm slowly moving towards healthy eating and moving my body more too, not because it's the new year, because my body is saying it's time. I ebb and flow with all this stuff and right now I'm going with the flow! LOVE YOU!
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Hi Angie!
It's so nice to hear from you and thank you. I'm so happy to hear you are flowing towards healthy eating and mor movement, it feels so good. It's amazing when we start listening to our bodies, isn't it?
2010 is going to be a phenomenal year, I can feel it! Love you too!
Tigerlily
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thank you for this beautiful text.
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I love the bare bones honesty here, dear one. I feel that this kind of honest self examination of our consciousness can only lead to being on friendlier terms with ourselves. xoBeth
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Truly fascinating! Takes caring for one's body to a whole new level indeed. Thank you for this!
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Hello Tiger Lily,
I just started reading your blog and I really enjoy it. I run a site called GoodNewsIsNews.com. It is a positive news only website. It has positive news, life tips, quotes, videos, and online coupons to help people save money. I was wondering if you would be able to link to my site from your blog. I think your viewers would enjoy it. Thank you!
Larissa
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great that you are back, missed reading you!
back on the journey myself
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Welcome back, dear one! Hugs, Beth
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Tigerlily, I just caught up on your blog & enjoyed all 3 of the last entries.
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This website and your beautifully written words came to me at a moment when I really needed them. Bless you.
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I just found this blog and I think it is wonderful, but the last entry is over 6 months ago. Where are you, TigerLily? Did the surgery go ok? How is your weight releasing journey coming along?
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You are truly a beautiful person and I am sure that your physical body will soon mirror your soul. Thank you for the inspiration.
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In one of their cds, AH describes a columnar pad game for weight loss similar to their debt free columnar pad game. I have a zillion of their cds but can't find that track now. Anyone remember which workshop, so I can look it up? Thanks, and LOVE your site!
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TigerLily,
What a powerful post - I love the radical self love and radical claiming of responsibility for creation of every aspect of your life. Wow!
Way to go on losing weight and gaining yourSelf.
In Light,
Emma
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I've had that thought to...just cut out the belly fat, and then had 2nd thoughts, but I kept coming back to it. Fascinating how that manifested. Your understanding of it will bring you in alignment with the desired outcome. Best wishes,G
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What a story. That is good they found the cyst. Way to go with the weight. I hope it goes well for you.
Patricia Sanders
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Thank you so much!! Your passion shows very much through your words.
Can we see any before and after photos when your done? =)
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Hello, Your story is really inspirational.
I am really trying to lose this weight I've gained with positive thinking, working out, and eating right but I honestly can say I have not had the great results you have. Maybe you can help me out in figuring out what I am doing wrong?
Thank you so much for your time,
Susie
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Tigerlily,
I'm so delighted that you've returned to this blog, exactly when the timing was right. I love how you've expressed your mom's transition, and the new relationships that you've developed with your non-phyiscal family - what an amazing gift you're allowing yourself!
Eating rainbows, choosing freedom, allowing yourself to shift in perfect rhythm - how wonderful!
much love to you,
Emma
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this is just stunningly beautiful. It reads like a love honoring to both your Mom and your self. thank you so much for posting it and allowing me to be witness to this incredible love between you and your Mom. Love, Bethie
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I love your website!!! ABsolutely phenomenal. GOOD GOOD STUFF. Please keep it up, you are helping and uplifting so many people. Great work.
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Yes! You will do it. You're an inspiration. I find the best way for fastest change is to come into a state of acceptance and perfection TODAY. Really see yourself as perfect today, but it's really what you are. love, lisa
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i loved your post. i was just curious what you did to keep your vibe joyous to lose the weight. im convinced you did lose the weight.
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tigerlily,
I can't begin to tell you ...i am still reeling...this article speaks to me so strongly it is spooky. I have been begging God, the universe, someone, to show me how the heck i'm supposed to learn to love myself.
I've been struggling with gratitude, and now i know why, because of "lack of self-appreciation".
Now ALL KINDS of things make sense to me, self appreciation leads to gratitude leads to attracting the wonderful things you've always dreamed about.
There is a difference between arrogance and confidence.
There is a difference between addiction and love.
There is a difference between self-aggrandization and declaring your talents.
There is a difference between being stuck on yourself and adoring yourself.
omg...i wish i'd known this a long time ago....
It's in my head. Wow.
Now the hard part is getting it into my heart. My heart has been shut down for so long...
someone....help me...oh god i want the ache to end....
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Great blog! Wow. I love the Star Wars quote. Do or do not, but there is no try. i too am allowing a perfect body. I live by a quote from A Course in Miracles "I am sustained by the Love of God", (plus it helps that I got a gym membership for Christmas!!! Keep shining your light. Love, lisa
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I love the positive nature of your post. Very inspirational.
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WooHoo TigerLily is back! This is so gorgeous and completely in line with what I was most needing to read this evening. Complete confidence in the outcome even when the steps of the journey are outside of your understanding. Complete trust in yourSelf, to know that the Essence of every desire already exists.
Emma
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What a beautiful blog!!!
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Hi Tigerlilly,
So nice to meet you! Our views and concepts about weight loss are so very similar! I have lost 170 pounds using the Law of Attraction and most recently, the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. Please visit my website at http://www.iam-iam-iam.com and tell me what you think! We are soul sisters!
Love,
Sierra
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Tigerlily
I want to tell you that those words you used to describe your mother process are the most lovable words I've ever read about surrendering to god.
Actually I love that expression that you used: Surrender to GOD
I always love to read your posts
Love
Ghassan
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Ah, Tigerlily - this is such a beautiful expression of your ever evolving connection to Source - your choices in what to believe about this journey that you are taking with your mother, your sisters and with yourSelf - are creating a richness that is so powerful to me.
There is something liberating about being involving in the process of another's transition that allows you to become more fully yourself than you ever have before - this was one of the results of my father's death this past spring - and it is so clearly your experience here.
Thank you! for sharing these understandings and insights with us.
Emma
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Dear Tigerlily,
This is beautiful beyond words can express - my love is with you and your mom as you take this journey together.
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Hello Tigerlily: Missing your astute writings. Hope you're doing well. If you need support, please feel free to write me at my personal email.
All is Well ~ Radiance Project
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Tigerlily, isn't the Abraham-Hicks material wonderful? Truly this is a great time to be alive, to watch the awakening of humans worldwide to the power of our thoughts and words. Your blogs are fabulous. Your courage is inspirational. I know that you will get the body that you want.
Love, Thia
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TigerLily - this is a gorgeous post (and I love the new look of the site too!). I've been writing about self trust recently also - and how it is a relationship between me and my InnerSelf - and then I realized that I had left out an important party - that I also wanted to heal the trust relationship between me and my body. Both ways. There were times when I felt my body had betrayed me .. thru illness, thru weight gain, etc - and I sensed that my body also felt that I had betrayed its trust as caretaker. So, I've been developing both relationships and learning to relax and allow that trust to flow.
Emma
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Hi Tiger lily
What a wonderful post.
I think it pushed the buttons for everyone, because trusting ourselves is something that we all struggle with
As Gina I did some progress in some areas, but still not the same progress in other areas
Your posts are full of love.
Thanks a lot for your wonderful blog
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Very cool! Initially when you talked about others disappointing you, I went off on another track, thinking about expectations that we hold for others instead of ourselves - and I had trouble equating that with distrust of self, but you brought me around very nicely! One of the key things I've noticed in the last 5 years is when I'm disappointed...I begin to doubt myself, lose faith in my ability to discern what is good for me, forgetting that I CHOOSE. I recognize it sooner now, but it does take me awhile to turn it around in my gut, to feel it from the inside out, and just because I recognize it doesn't mean I'm never subject to self distrust again. And that's okay...I never get it done and I never get it wrong. (g)
I've enjoyed this post, as usual.
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Hi Tiger Lily: An excellent post with lots to chew on (no pun intended). I remember clearly asking my therapist once: "When will I ever be a grown up? When will I be able to trust myself to follow through?" My track record in many areas is excellent; I always do what I say I will do. But in a few areas I'm like a child, promising one thing (either to myself or to others) and ultimately delivering results that fall far short of what I thought I could/would produce. Weight control is the most obvious of those poor results. I wear my failure everyday for everyone else to see!
So, yes, I trust myself in many ways, but not to take good care of my body. Trust can only come when I have followed through consistently. When I have made thoughtful food choices - consistently. When I have moved and stretched my muscles and joints - consistently. When I have given my body enough water to drink every day.
Those times when I have successfully controlled my eating behaviors (dieted), it is the self-control that felt best, even better than the weight loss.
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Togerlily
What a beautiful words
It is all start by accepting and appreciating ourselves
I read your post few times, and I am going to read it in the future as well and comeback to it whenever I want to.
Thank you for your wonderful post.
With love
Ghassan
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You know, Tigerlily, that you are fantastic! I love your site, I really enjoy your energy and I think you are tremendously successful already. I can see that your new thoughts are overwhelming the old ones and that you are directing your ship of life. Great for you! Lots of love to you and I can't wait to see your next success.
Wren
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Hi Tiger Lily: I'm glad you like the Abe Scale idea. I LOVE your idea about adding the audio affirmations a la Abe. I got so excited I sent an email to Jerry and Esther asking if they wanted to co-create this scale with us. What could be more fun!?
I will also look forward to your ideas about inspired action journeys. Thanks for your encouragement about the 8 miles; I like your take on it.
All is certainly well! - Radiance Project
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This is fantastic! I've lived this one out this very week. I got over being mad at myself for gaining weight after going through divorce. Now, I've been practicing how it felt a year ago..and remembering how good I felt...and exercising as if I didn't take anytime off...and carrying myself as though I was back in the body I love (meanwhilst trying to Really love the body I'm in) and what happened? Two neighbors lavished compliments about having dropped some weight...one good friend said more of the same...so much so that I decided to weigh myself...NO CHANGE...however...MUCH CHANGE in the heart and it is being reflected outward...the scale will catch up to this inward image for sure! Blessings to you!
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Hi Tiger Lily: Enjoyed the above quote very much.
Been pondering and reading today, "Ask and It Is Given", for the second time. Pondering especially that example that Abe likes to use of the trip from Phoenix to San Diego; how if we keep heading for SD we will surely get there, but if we keep getting turned around and heading back toward Phoenix, it can feel as if we will NEVER make it to SD. Somehow, on our journey to San Diego, we have to take our focus off where we have been and even where we are now, and focus only on where we are going. And feel good while we're heading there! Yeah.
So I started applying that to the numbers on the scale, which I've been pretty much ignoring for three months now. And I realized that what we need is a digital scale that only shows us our goal. In other words, you program in where you are and where you want to be, and each time you hop on it reads the number of pounds you have left to "travel". You never see the "reality" of what you weigh now, you never compare yourself to where you have been. You just say, "I've got 115 miles to go, I am heading in the right direction, and this feels good." I wonder who we should talk to about manufacturing The Abe scale? :o)
Seriously though, it's now become clear to me that 35 years of dieting has inextricably implanted ideas in my head about what is fattening, what is not, and what it takes to lose weight. I've been hoping I could gently let go those ideas, that maybe no "action journey" was really necessary. The net result of the three month experiment has been that I've traveled back toward Phoenix about eight miles, my apnea has returned, I'm not getting good sleep, so I'm pooped all the time, so I'm stress eating, so I'm even more so on my weigh (!) back to Phoenix!!!
Tiger Lily, how to incorporate a powerful, Abe-like action journey? How to weave it into the LOA fabric? There must be a way to do it. Yet every time recently when I have tried to limit my intake or avoid eating certain foods, I find my inner self rebelling. I am most certainly not in joy. And Abe says action should never be taken without JOY.
Thoughts? Anyone?
All is well....Radiance Project
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Whoo! A virtual avalanche of affirmation goodies from which to choose. How generous you are to share, Tiger Lily. I hope it was fun and refreshing for you to post them.
All is well...Radiance Project
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Hi Tigerlily,
Good set of affirmation sentences.
Thanks for sharing them here.
Jim Somchai,
http://www.visualizationmeditation.com
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What a great post...one that I can really relate a lot to.
I am trying to lose my last 10 pounds of baby weight and the mantra "The last 10 pounds are the hardest" keep going through my head as I step on the scale. Well...of course they are the hardest if I am going to think like this!
Thanks for helping me to see this in a different light.
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Your blog is such an inspiration. Very well written and full of great info. I'm so glad I found it!
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Hello Again Tiger Lily: As always, I appreciate and learn from your astute and powerful posts. However, I think I was not clear in explaining my exact question. I'm not really talking about generating feelings of love for myself when I stand and study my reflection. I'm already there pretty much all the time. Where I'm not feeling powerful is when I'm caught off guard by a sudden reflection. Even then I'm not asking about how to maintain a self-loving attitude; I'm asking about ideas for not noticing the gap between where I want to be and where I am. I think I told you that I am good at carrying around a vision/feeling of being a trim-but-curvy size 8. It's so real for me inside my head! Then that sneaky mirror or plate glass window smacks me with an entirely different picture of reality. Whoa! I'm not a size 8! I'm not even close!
Try as I might, I have been unable to frame any affirmations or positive self talk that will easily get me back to feeling good about the distance I still have to go. It would be like trying to generate more money at the same time you are having to look at your tiny bank balance every so often. How to remain powerful in the face of a "reality" that differs profoundly from the one we are creating in our heads? I've heard Abe say things like:
"That's just the fading residual of my old way of thinking. That doesn't apply to me now. I'm creating a whole new reality for myself. I know it is on its way to me now. I can feel it getting closer." etc.
So, bottom line, I guess I'm asking if you've ever worked up a series of affirmations about this specific subject that can turn around your negative thinking or the impact of a sudden dose of "reality"? If so, would you be willing to share?
Thanks. I hope this was more clear. I'll look forward to reading your response.
All is well...Radiance Project
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Really love finding your site. Thought you might enjoy this quote:
Metabolism is vibrational response to your moment in time. Metabolism is the way the Energy is moving through your body. And so, everything is in response to the way you feel -- everything is. Everything is mind over matter. Every disease is mental first. Everything is about thought. Everything is about vibration. Everything is about the way you feel. Practice scenarios that feel good--and never mind reality. Reality is only a brief moment in time that you keep repeating.
Excerpted from the Abraham-Hicks workshop in Silver Spring, MD on Saturday, May 11th, 2002 ( Abraham-Hicks .c om )
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Tigerlily,
This post really catches at me .. I also experience the shock, and there are days when I can actually feel shock reverberate through me, when I catch a glimpse of myself unexpectedly in a mirror, in a photo. "That's not me!" is always my first, often horrified, throught.
In my growing up years, I was a slender girl, and young woman. I didn't have an eating or weight problem, but my mother certainly did. And it affected me. Viscerally. She would sneak into the kitchen at night when she thought everyone else was sleeping, and I could hear her chewing. It turned my stomach. And, it set up some beliefs for me. I think that is when my weight issues began, even though it didn't manifest til a few years later.
In college I put on a little weight at first (140s), and then dropped to my lowest adult weight of 117 after college.
And then, the weight began to sneak on, a few pounds here, and there, a baby, and another 50 while preganant, but didn't lose it all, and the more I focused on noticing my weight, the more it kept coming - til I sit here typing at 215 pounds this morning.
The interesting thing is, in my head, I'm still a woman who weight 120 pounds. And when I see myself in the mirror - I'm shocked. In fact, other than the batroom mirrow, shoulders up, I rarely see myself. My full length mirror is hidden in a corner in my room, only accessed after fully dressed. I don't want to see myself.
So when you talk about really looking, really seeing, really allowing myself to be beautiful just as I am - wow! my feeling is a great big honking fear. Yup, that f.e.a.r - fear. I don't want to see who I am.
Ah, what a GIFT you've given me today - this is such a beautiful insight - and because I can feel the fear, and know what it is, I can now step into it, embrace the fear and embrace me.
Dear Tigerlily, today you've given me the opportunity to allow myself to look at myself as I truly am in this moment, and love the woman that I am right now. It doesn't mean I have to remain at this weight, but it doesn't mean that I can't either. What I can do is acknowledge that aspect of me - the physical aspect of me, and love it.
I am sending sincere and joyful appreciation your way today.
Em
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Tiger Lily: Another fabulous post. Loved the bridge you built to your own personal point of power.
On a related issue: I've been doing envisioning exercises as described and recommended by Abe. At first it was hard to remember back to being the size I want to be again, but I am now to the point where I can close my eyes anywhere and capture the feeling tone of "trim-but-curvy size 8". What vitality and radiance I felt and projected! Life was so easy and fun when walking was striding and I could bend at the waist and touch the floor with my palms! I just bring that feeling into NOW and I can easily spend 17 seconds in that space, and add more 17-second increments when I'm in bed or in the shower, undisturbed.
So it is always so very shocking when I encounter a mirror! I have yet to be able to remain powerful when I walk by a full length mirror or plate glass window. How it FEELS to me is like a sudden slap across the face, and I am always so disconcerted, that I'm unable to maintain my hi vibe. I've tried framing affirmations in advance, but they just aren't accessible to me when faced with an unexpected mirror image. Have you got any thoughts on this? Any powerful processes you've used?
Enjoying each and every one of your lucid, honest, probing posts. Glad you're here for me as I sift through my own set of contrasts.
All is well...Radiance Project
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